New concept for you? Can't seem to fit one incident in your mind where a brother, cut up his girl's clothes, put water in her gas tank, slashed her tires, broke her windows, cleaned out her bank account? That could be because males go a step further, and slash faces, stab and shoot the offender of his ego.
But, it is true that women who are not self empowered ( read that as still operating under a male defined expected behavior, do in fact cry falsely, "rape" and "battery." I personally know of cases where the charges were false, and I personally had a real woman to woman talk to the female perpetrators of this falsehood.
I am writing this blog today, because in New York a young man William McCaffrey then 30-years old went to prison to serve 20 years on the strength of a lying young female. Apparently she got in a car with three males, kissed him got scared and then went back to her girlfriends who were mightily annoyed with her for leaving them, and made up a story that she was raped. Her friends mocked her story and in revenge she filed charges against him and added a weapons charge for good measure. She lied to her friends, doctors, police, prosecutor, jury, grand jurors and jurors about her supposed abduction. Both are Latinos and Ms. Biurny Gonzalez can be considered by some as a hot looking chick..yes a hot looking chick with a serious mental/male image problem.
Most of you that know me, know I can infuriate someone like nobody's business.That is a consequence of talking the talk and walking the walk. It is a persona that I carry because frankly I am not afraid of anyone.
This new "Cyberspace Village" is an interesting ground for the new- battery, rape and falsehoods. Seems like in my short one year presence I have pissed off a whole lot of males and a few females along the way, with my thinking , presence and devil may care attitude of saying what I need to say. My political battles have been waged with White , Black , Hispanics, Greeks, Canadians, Jews, Moslem and Roman Catholic Males...well you get the picture, and I am still amazed at the unrelenting attitudes that males in general persist on having about females.
Males that are scorned are just as sleazy and labor under the same pain as a female; problems of the ego. They lash out and vent fury. Attempting to destroy ironically their own admiration for the female. As I grew and my personality formed I tended to side on the virtue of honesty, which I can tell you has gotten me in a few stews. From getting fired, to harassment all they way back to when I attended Tuskegee (then) Institute.
I have confronted everything from males devaluing my ethnicity, my education, my work and volunteer experience, my clothes, my hair, ( yes stupid as it sounds, from" you're wearing wig, to you got a curl & press?? wha? to your hair is too long.." Yes I actually had that said to me, in the Rec while I was at Tuskegee, but do realize that was before God made dirt! What is happening is that my female energy and my male energy are balanced and both are very strong. The poor guy with problems will really act out when I have had to deal with their boorish behavior and let them know I don't take orders from males. I will be compliant with a male who I think is my equal, in intelligence, manners and education.
Here is an example: In California in 1993 I walked into an Art Gallery with my two children. The brother and his white wife, just saw red when he saw me, he might as well had left the horns up, and he said , and I quote
"You welfare ($$$) are all alike" excuse me? I had a moment of incredulous paralysis. I looked over at his white wife, she pretended she didn't hear it, my kids were away from earshot, (lucky for him) and I thought to myself what a self-hating black man. Firstly because I was back then quite fortunate in getting alimony and child support the bastion of the middle class support system; Secondly, Welfare was created for white woman, and Thirdly the disrespect, assumption and debasement as a Nubian Queen was so evident ( so instead of Arabic I speak Spanish, well they are related!) that I promptly marched into the corporate office, yes that's my style and filed a formal complaint, and they did not renew his lease.
Each and every time in my multitudes of times I have clashed with Black American men in particular I have left pondering their manhood. It does not surprise me then, that they have tried to hurt me, when I ended a personal, intimate, business or casual relationship. The new frontier is this Cyberspace Village. But I am so much smarter than men, because I possess as every female does the Goddess Wisdom. Develop your wisdom Sisters in the Diaspora. We really were the first leaders, creators, warriors, teachers, nurses, farmers, artists, and healers.. and just like that (well a few hundreds of thousands of years) we let them usurp power and redefine who WE are. That is just ridiculously impossible.
My most powerful weapons, have been a strong self image as a human/female endowed with the right to self determination. As I grew older I learned to use my knowledge. I avoided almost sub-consciously walking in the footsteps of the woman who defines herself and image by what man has concocted from his well of confusion and envy, and other dislocated perceptions of the mystery we possess. My teachers were the spiritual women/goddesses who walked before me..like the Harriet Tubmans' at the beginning of our struggle, to maintain what is rightfully ours, dignity, strength, the ability to nurture and wisdom.
As of today, I see the this will be a continuing struggle. So for the men for whom "Hell Hath No Fury" that have crossed my path? I dismiss you with a wave of my hand, comfortable in the knowledge that I am a woman of integrity, honesty and worth and there is nothing that can ever be done to me, or about me that will devalue my greatness as a Woman, Queen and Warrior.
Namaste.
Posted By: Marta Fernandez
Tuesday, December 8th 2009 at 6:38PM
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